Posted in counselling, inspiration, personalgrowth, psychology

Crying-Behavioural Therapy

Even the most courageous and powerful cry at a time in their lives. Crying isn’t for the sad or weak since happy flashes bring tears to our eyes too. More so at times we cry for no apparent reason like someone who misses it and decides to do it. Absurd, I know but it happens. Right?

Am not a cry baby but I’ve learn that it is a therapy. Whenever I have too much going on in my mind and nothing seems to make sense, when am sad and feel like life is hitting rock bottom am your typical baby. It is like the tears flow down with all the worries in them and bring a feeling of refreshment. After am done I wipe my tears off, stare myself in the mirror and assure myself that I can do it then in a snap am back to putting all the effort needed.

People tend to cause chaos when stressed like feeding yourself to everything, annoying everyone through reckless deeds, saying hurtful words that can never be taken back and at times others injure themselves through throwing things and punching walls. We might find comfort by leaning on people’s shoulders but pity doesn’t work for me. Realistic advises that beat the crap out of you is what most of us are looking for.

Yoga exercises, mind games, visiting a shrink are some therapies that can ease away your mind but I have found a beautiful behavior in crying and I think you should try it. Doesn’t hurt.

Posted in challenge, community, culture, Lifestyle, management, personalgrowth, planning, sentiments

Desperados

We live in a world where nothing comes easy and if it does lady luck must be on your case. Some of us have never had the savior fair of linkages to accessing opportunities in this demanding life. So what do you do? The devil is a liar and he comes knocking at our door steps so hungry to devour the little left in us.

One moment you looking at a “too good to be true” deal that takes you to a Disney fantasy. Of course there is an organization by that name, the data spelled out is so accurate but how coining takes place to be a hoax only cons know best. Then word goes out that it is a SCAM!!!

So how did one get duped? It is easy…fraudsters like psychologists know the demands of frustrated people who have hustled office to office, who need capital to jump-start a venture without any collateral on their name, the likes who are stressed up and ready to grab whatever comes their way and those who like having an easy way out.

There was this chat on a Whats App group and everyone was too keen to share their swindled experiences and the last comment was “if you haven’t been deceived, your turn is coming.” That sounded more of horror than a warning and since I’ve never been in the hands of con-men I pray the angels shall continuously watch over me.

I assessed the game con-men like playing on us and only an alert mind can save you. First of all, how do they ask for an application fee let’s say for volunteering in an organization? Secondly, how do they send the same message over and over again using the same lame number? Thirdly, how do they sell the most expensive gadgets like a give-away toy? Fourthly, as the fooled how do you even leave your belongings to strangers? Lastly, why do you believe everything you told or see? You got to trust your instincts-they never let anyone down.

Having looked at that plot used man, I got to say their game is so down low! The bottom line is, no matter how desperate you can be never ever rush to actions that might cost your life big time. We all want to make it but it starts from scratch going to the top. Let the hunger in you burn for the appropriate measures and not for silly excitements that last for hours. BEWARE OF SCAMS.

 

 

Posted in April, culture, entertainment

Fool’s Day

This is one of the anticipated day of the year when everyone around me plans something fishy and i too busy to even realize it is 1st April always get the better part of the pranks. However, this year am very alert and armed with my alarm clock to constantly remind me it’s fool’s day; this reminder should be after every one hour or less. Everything that my eyes shall see, ears shall hear or words to be spoken shall only come to effect IF and only IF days later after research will prove to be true. That “blah blah” “yea yea” that you loathe to hear from me are the key answers you shall get.

Come 2nd April another name shall be granted unto me as i plan to hoax almost all my closest buddies with the lies of a lifetime. Hmm can i really lie yet they smell it from afar? Any-who am very courageous and hope my plans shall go as planned as the devil in me says so, and no sensations arising out of my lies shall be detected.

Have you ever asked yourself how this day came to be? Some affiliate it to religion, festivals, tales, victory and to others it has been a long standing custom. Whichever way you heard it or knew of it, it still is April Fools.

Just a glimpse of some of its origins:

The day began, most believe, in 1582, when Pope Gregory XIII decreed the adoption of the “Gregorian calendar” — named after himself — which moved New Year’s Day from the end of March to Jan. 1.

The change was published widely, explains Ginger Smoak, an expert in medieval history at the University of Utah, but those who didn’t get the message and continued to celebrate on April 1 “were ridiculed and, because they were seen as foolish, called April Fools.”

In 1539, Flemish poet Eduard de Dene wrote of a nobleman who sent his servants on foolish errands on 1 April. In 1686, John Aubrey referred to the holiday as “Fooles holy day”, the first British reference. On 1 April 1698, several people were tricked into going to the Tower of London to “see the Lions washed”.

Some believe the first association between April 1 and playing tricks can be found in Geoffrey Chaucer’s The Canterbury Tales from 1392. In “The Nun’s Priest’s Tale,” a fox tricks proud rooster Chauntecleer on syn March bigan thritty dayes and two.

Although Chaucer probably meant 32 days after March (May 2), many readers apparently misunderstood the line to mean March 32 — or April 1.

Others believe that April Fools’ Day was the result of a desire to celebrate the turning of the seasons around springtime. In fact, many cultures have historically held such celebrations around the beginning of April.

For example, the ancient Romans had a festival named Hilaria on March 25. The Hindus celebrate Holi, and the Jews celebrate Purim around this time of year.

I envy Western countries since they mark this day with a lot of pomp and color but do not underestimate the power of my country especially Kenyans on Twitter who just know how best to light up our days.

Let me get to my drawing board…how do you intend to fool others today? Will you be the master of game or be tagged as the noodle?

Happy April Fool’s day and awesome new month!!!

Ps: remember those paper made stickers we would jot down with words like kick me…you can make a paper fish and stick it on someone’s back with the words April fool.

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